Don't Guess - Ask This Powerful Question Instead
Jul 05, 2020
While it’s great to offer assistance and provide kindness in any ways we can, sometimes our help may not always be what the recipient most needs. It can even be unwanted in some instances. Receiving assistance can be a sensitive subject. You don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings or overstep your bounds. I’ve discovered one way to avoid that is to ask people how I can help them. Let me show you the benefits of this approach.
Demonstrate Sincerity
Asking, “How can I help you?” can demonstrate sincerity and that you truly want to do what is in the best interest of the recipient. When you ask for input, you’re showing that you are willing to listen and to do what the person most wants; you’re not simply helping in order to feed your own ego, out of obligation, or for some ulterior motive. The question puts their needs and desires front and center.
Allows Vulnerability
Asking for help is hard. There’s a stigma in our society when it comes to being vulnerable. When you ask someone how you can help them, it’s you who is taking the first step. The recipient doesn’t have to carry the emotional burden of approaching someone for assistance. When they feel confident in your sincerity and your willingness to help, the pressure will be taken off them.
Pinpoints Need
If you truly want to know what someone needs, the direct approach is usually best. When you ask, you’ll know what the person really wants. Guessing can lead to an awkward moment for you both. In addition, there’s really no point in putting forth the time, effort, and other resources to help in a way that may not be needed nor appreciated. Your kindness will be more efficient and useful when you ask, “How can I help?”
Builds Connections
Asking how you can help someone is such a wonderful gesture for all the reasons above. Genuine kindness is almost always appreciated but asking this one simple question goes above and beyond. It demonstrates respect and sincerity, which will ensure you’re remembered for a long time to come. Asking this question can often be the beginning of a strong relationship.
There are so many benefits to asking how you can help someone rather than guessing or assuming what they may need. You’ll be glad you took the time to ask and to truly listen once you see the results in action. You’ll gain so much as well.
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